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Plain answers about quitting porn: how the hook works, what to do after a lapse, where the gray zone is, and why counting days backfires. Written by the rerute team.
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lapses · 5 min read
Relapsed? What to do in the next 72 hours
The hours after a lapse decide whether it stays one. A calm, practical plan for them, with no shame and no starting over.
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the gray zone · 4 min read
Masturbation while quitting porn: where the line is
Masturbating without porn isn't a lapse. With porn playing in your head, it is. The rule, and why it's deliberately simple.
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streaks · 4 min read
Why streak counters make quitting porn harder
One bad night turns day 40 into day 0. The reset, the shame and the binge that follows, and what to measure instead.
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urges · 3 min read
How long do porn urges last?
Urges rise, crest and pass, usually within minutes. How to ride one out without arguing with it.
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the brain · 4 min read
The porn recovery timeline: what changes, and when
What many people notice after a week, a month and three months, and why your timeline won't match anyone else's exactly.
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blocking · 3 min read
How to block porn on iPhone, and make it stick
Screen Time can block adult sites in every browser. How to set it up, and how to make it hard to undo in a weak moment.
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research · 3 min read
Is porn addiction real? What the research says
It isn't a formal diagnosis, but compulsive sexual behaviour is. What scientists agree on, what they argue about, and what it means for you.
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self-check · 3 min read
Signs you have a problem with porn
You don't need a diagnosis to want to stop. Ten honest questions, and what to do with your answers.
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the first weeks · 3 min read
Porn withdrawal symptoms: what's real and what to expect
Restlessness, bad sleep, a loud mind. What the research says about withdrawal, and why the itch is milder than it feels.
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shame · 3 min read
Why shame makes you relapse
Shame feels like it should keep you in line. In practice it's one of the surest ways back to the screen. What to use instead.
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triggers · 3 min read
Porn triggers: boredom, stress, loneliness and the phone in bed
Most sessions start long before the screen. How to find your cues and break the chain at the first link.
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the plan · 3 min read
If-then plans: the simplest tool against porn urges
Deciding in advance what you'll do in a specific moment makes you far more likely to do it. How to write rules that hold.
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the brain · 3 min read
Why porn is so hard to quit: the itch it creates
Porn doesn't so much give you pleasure as end a restlessness it created. Seeing that backwards loop is what makes stopping easier.
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relationships · 3 min read
How to tell your partner you're quitting porn
When to say it, what to say and what not to promise. Plus a section for partners.
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the gray zone · 3 min read
NoFap, semen retention and quitting porn: what matters
Abstaining from orgasm and quitting porn are different goals. Which one solves the problem, and why day counts backfire.
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the body · 3 min read
Porn and erectile problems: what we know
Many men who quit porn report stronger arousal with a partner. What the research shows, what it doesn't, and when to see a doctor.
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the first weeks · 3 min read
The flatline: low libido after quitting porn
Some people feel their sex drive drop for a while after quitting. What it is, how long it tends to last, and why it's not a reason to go back.
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for everyone · 3 min read
Quitting porn as a woman
Women use porn too, and the hook works the same way. What's different is the silence around it.
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choosing an app · 3 min read
What to look for in an app to quit porn
Most quit-porn apps are built around streaks, notifications and daily check-ins. What actually helps, and what to ask before you download one.
